Why it’s okay to change your mind

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If you want to be a grocer, or a general, or a politician, or a judge, you will invariably become it; that is your punishment. If you never know what you want to be, if you live what some might call the dynamic life but what I will call the artistic life, if each day you are unsure of who you are and what you know you will never become anything, and that is your reward.” – Oscar Wilde

My mom ripped this quote out of the paper, it reminded her of me. I have made up my mind about what I want to do or become countless times. I have studied communication, ended up working as a travel agent for a few years, studied the Chinese language in China and now I’m traveling the world, working as a digital nomad and falling in love with surfing. And I’m still glad I explored all these different things.

I have had so many different hobbies. Most of them being creative things. When I was a child I used to dance, sing, write, act, paint, I used to play outside, climb trees, built tents, doing things that kids do. I think the older we get the more we lose touch with our creative side. We get so caught up in building a career, doing things adults are ‘supposed to do’ that there is no time left to ‘play’. But even as an adult ‘play time’ is still important, to de-stress and enjoy life.

Society tells us we need to specialize in something, but to me that just seems so incredibly boring. I don’t want to be a specialist in anything, I want to learn about so many different things and try everything that seems interesting. And who decides when you are a specialist anyway?

It’s okay to change your mind about what you want, it’s okay if your dreams change along the way. You still tried. You still explored them. Don’t feel regretful, but proud that you tried what others only talk about. It’s okay if you end up doing something completely different. Pursuing the things that make you happy is already enough. Remember that the biggest regrets are the things we didn’t try out of fear.

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